Relationship advice is ubiquitous in the Internet age. Opinions from dating services, Reddit users, social media sites and endless other sources are available with the click of a button. In fact, a Google search for “relationship advice” returns more than 517 million results.
Rather than sorting through mountains of relationship material, click through this list to find 16 of the most popular relationship articles published on DeseretNews.com in the past few years.
#16- “A note to my daughter: Seven attributes that make a husband worth the trouble”
Courtesy of Gary Larsen
Read the entire blog post here: “A note to my daughter: Seven attributes that make a husband worth the trouble”
“I am a man and I know men. I know what our weaknesses are and what our tendencies are. I know that my son-in-law will not be perfect, but I do want him to be capable of improving and growing because you will make him better if he lets you.
“He can and should be your best friend and the person that adores you the most in this world because when I am gone from this world, he will be just that.”
This article by Gary Larsen originally appeared on www.highfiveyourlife.com.
#15- “Yes, you should try to change your spouse”
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Read the entire blog post here: “Yes, you should try to change your spouse”
“Maybe I’m crazy, but I’m glad my wife is trying to change her flawed husband. She knows just how much better I could be if I had the same confidence in myself that she has in me.”
“I’m not too shy to say that I want her to change, too. Not because Kodi isn’t good enough already — she’s magnificent — but because I recognize potential in her that goes beyond this life and into the next.”
This article by Jason F. Wright appeared on DeseretNews.com.
#14- “My husband is better than yours”
Courtesy of Kelsey Keller Weller
“I’ve learned my lesson. Marriage isn’t a competition to be the most in love. It’s not something to be put on display for others to judge and compare themselves to. Marriage is a sacred thing between you and your companion.”
“Sure, I love seeing the occasional mushy Facebook status from other couples, and it makes me happy to hear about how your husband brought you home a really great surprise. I’m not saying to never share. I am only suggesting that maybe we all need to ask ourselves every now and again, ‘Am I over-sharing?’ ”
This post by Kelsey Keller Weller originally appeared on her blog, A Little Bird Told Me. It was republished with permission.
#13- “The 10 marriage commandments”
Read the entire blog post here: “The 10 marriage commandments”
“As we get caught up in day-to-day living, it’s easy to forget the basic behaviors that can mean the difference between a successful marriage and a floundering one. Every marriage is as unique as the people living it. But there are some universal commandments that can make every marriage better.”
“Thou shalt be kind. We have a mantra in our house: kind words, soft answers.”
“Thou shalt be appreciative. Make a conscious choice to let go of little annoyances and devote more mental energy to thinking about all the things you love about your spouse.”
This article by Heather Hale originally appeared on Family Share. It was republished with permission.
#12- “Forget about feelings, real love is a deliberate choice”
Courtesy of Seth Adam Smith
“I’ve heard it said that real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. It’s true. …”
“Love is so much more than some random, euphoric feeling. And real love isn’t always fluffy, cute and cuddly. More often than not, real love has its sleeves rolled up, dirt and grime smeared on its arms, and sweat dripping down its forehead. Real love asks us to do hard things — to forgive one another, to support each other’s dreams, to comfort in times of grief or to care for family. Real love isn’t easy — and it’s nothing like the wedding day — but it’s far more meaningful and wonderful.”
This article was written by Seth Adam Smith and was originally published on SethAdamSmith.com. It was republished with permission.
#11- “The six most important lessons my marriage has taught me”
Courtesy of Saren Eyre Loosli
“Maybe there are some people out there (real people, not people in books and movies) who have easy marriages full of non-stop romance and deep soul mate connection. But I don’t know any of them.”
Here are the six lessons the author says she has learned:
Give 100 percent
If it’s important to you, it’s important to me
Don’t expect to change anyone besides yourself
Marriage is work every day
This article by Saren Eyre Loosli originally appeared on Power of Moms. It was republished with permission.
#10- “When you think your love story is boring”
Courtesy of Lisa-Jo Baker
Read the entire blog post: “When you think your love story is boring”
“There is a rumor, an urban myth, a fiction, a fantasy, a black-and-white screen cliché that love looks like the mad, romantic dash through airports for a last chance at a flailing kiss.
“And then the credits roll. And the lights come on. And we must go back to our real lives where we forget that love really lives.”
“He is patient and kind. He always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And we come running to him. When the battered white minivan pulls into the driveway, his children trip over themselves, their abandoned Crocs and the pool bag to be the first to open the door and spill out their day into the hands of the man who can catch them.”
This piece by Lisa-Jo Baker originally appeared on her blog, LisaJoBaker.com. It was republished with the author’s permission.
#9- “Four ways to ruin your marriage without even trying”
Read the entire blog post here: “Four ways to ruin your marriage without even trying”
“Having a good marriage is a lot of hard work. But having a bad marriage is easy. You just need to do four simple things.”
“Misplace your priorities. … Admire other pastures. … Sweat the small stuff. … Make it a contest.”
This article was written by Rob Jenkins and was published in the Gwinnett Daily News. It was republished with permission.
#8- “To wives: Before you were Mommy”
“When we found out that we were pregnant with my son (now 4), my husband and I became one of those ‘new parent’ couples.”
“If only our instructor had sat us down and said, ‘Ladies, before you were Mommy, you were his. Men, before you were Daddy, you were hers. Remember this. Hold on to this. Keep these words precious to you.’ ”
“I wouldn’t have understood her. I might not have even understood her a few months later. But four years down the road, I would replay those words over and over in my heart, and I would know exactly what she had meant.”
This article by Becky Thompson originally appeared on her blog, Scissortail Silk. It was republished with permission.
#7- “Recovering from divorce: 10 marriage tips”
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Courtesy of Karen Lodato
Read the entire blog post here: “Recovering from divorce: 10 marriage tips every wife needs to hear”
“My husband and I had both been through divorce before we married each other, and with that brings a unique perspective into many do’s and don’ts of how to treat your spouse. Don’t get me wrong — our marriage isn’t perfect, but our failures in past relationships have shaped decisions we make about the way we treat each other, and to be honest, I’m glad I went through it. We’ve learned better, so now we do better.”
“Marriage is a commitment. In sickness and health, in good times and in bad. Those vows are sacred. They don’t say, “If you have bad times.” They say, “In good times AND in bad,” implying that there WILL be bad times. It’s inevitable. So choose to love anyway. He’s worth it.”
This post by Karen Lodato originally appeared on her blog, Eighth Rising. It was republished with permission.
#6- “My husband is not my soul mate”
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Whitney Neal Photography
Read the entire blog post here: “My husband is not my soul mate”
“There is no biblical basis to indicate that God has one soul mate for you to find and marry. You could have a great marriage with any number of compatible people. There is no ONE PERSON for you. But once you marry someone, that person becomes your one person.”
“My marriage is not based on a set of choices over which I had no control. It is based on a daily choice to love this man, this husband that I chose out of many people that I could have chosen to love (in theory, don’t imagine that many others were lined up and knocking at the door). He is not some elusive soul mate, not some divine fulfillment, not some perfect step on the rigorously laid out but oh so secret ‘Plan for My Life.’ ”
This article by Hannah W. originally appeared on her blog, The Art in Life. It was republished with permission.
#5- “Why my husband never sleeps on the couch and other marriage advice to ignore”
Read the entire blog post here: “Why my husband never sleeps on the couch and other marriage advice to ignore”
In this blog post, Amy Peterson shares six pieces of marriage advice she’s chosen not to follow.
Never go to bed angry
Happy wife, happy life
You’re sleeping on the couch
Only one person wears the pants
Love means never having to say you’re sorry
Always be honest
“I treasure some of the advice given to me on my wedding day, and there are couples who inspire my husband and me. However, I also know not to take all advice at face value. As you work to improve your marriage, be smart about the advice you take and the advice you ignore. Have good communication with your spouse, and you’ll find most issues get resolved quickly, leaving more time for that happy life you’ve always wanted — together.”
This article by Amy Peterson was originally published on Family Share. It was republished with permission.
#4- “17 dating rules for my sons”
Courtesy of Sara Watkins
Read the entire blog post here: “17 dating rules for my sons”
“Dating is a tricky thing, and doing it right is difficult. But it is honestly the most important thing you will ever do.”
“Always ask a girl on a date, straight forward and direct. And always ask in person.
“Use your good sense when it comes to kissing. Don’t kiss every girl, but don’t be afraid to kiss the right girl.”
“Handle her heart with care. Women are strong, but they are also delicate. Don’t ruin that. Do not be responsible for hardening a woman’s heart.”
This post originally appeared on Sara Watkins’ blog, Team Watkins. It was republished with the author’s permission.
#3- “How I know my wife married the wrong person”
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Suni Danielle Photography
Read the entire blog post here: “How I know my wife married the wrong person”
“As long as you limit the field to human beings, you’ll never marry the ‘right person.’ Because there are no 100-percent ‘right people.’ Sin’s presence in the world guarantees it. There are only wrong people who pretend to be right and wrong people who are becoming right, through Jesus. … The biblical image of marriage provides something so much more beautifully realistic.”
“It’s two imperfect people, committing to the sanctifying work of expressing Jesus’ self-sacrificial love, to their lover, so that they might see him or her become the person God has always intended them to be, knowing full well that neither of them have yet to reach this goal.”
This post by Tyler McKenzie originally appeared on his blog, Cross-Shaped Stuff. It was republished with the author’s permission.
#2- “Things that changed my view of marriage forever”
Read the entire blog post here: “Things that changed my view of marriage forever”
“One day I woke up and realized I did not love my husband. He was just a stranger sleeping next to me. In that moment, I questioned everything I was and everything I had done up to that point in my life. This realization that I could not ‘be in love’ with the guy to whom I had promised my eternity changed my view of marriage. Forever.”
This article was written by Kilee Luthi and was originally published on Family Share. It was republished with permission.
#1- “The No. 1 cause of divorce isn’t what you think”
“The most common issue I see with couples who are struggling in marriage is a lack of intentional investment in their marriage.”
“Wherever we put our time, money and energy also ends up receiving our passion, interest and affection. Think about what this means for a marriage: You will generally feel for your spouse to the extent in which you invest in your spouse.”